I have this theory that everything happens all at once. Maybe you’ve noticed this pattern too in your own life. Sometimes all it takes is for one thing to go wrong and suddenly other things start to come at you, one after the other, picking up speed until your life seems to have snowballed into one screw-up so giant you feel like there’s no way out.
I like to call these life moments “blips” because when you’re in the middle of one it feels like you’ve stepped into a blip in the time-space continuum; like you’re standing still and the world just keeps on moving faster around you at a pace that’s impossible to match, and you feel frozen in place because you just cannot believe that all of this is happening to you all at once.
I experienced a blip recently about six weeks before Christmas so if the above sounds familiar to you, please know you’re not alone, because I’ve been there. I won’t get personal, but a bunch of things happened in my life in such rapid succession it made me feel as if I had run face-first into a brick wall. The sensation of being stuck is difficult to handle; it’s a nightmare for control freaks like me whose self-worth rides on the amount of things that can be accomplished in one day.
As someone who blogs about trying to find balance in all the busy-ness that life throws our way, it may surprise you to read that I still quite haven’t figured it out myself. I’m not here as a teacher, and I don’t want to come across as flawless because I’ve been there before, time and again: I’ve worked too hard, stayed up too late, blew people off, flaked out on deadlines and far too frequently worked myself to the point of exhaustion, sometimes teetering on the verge of burnout.
Even so, balance is something I strive to learn more about because I think it’s a process more than it is a destination, and true balance is about finding the ability to ride the current of life while managing to keep your head above water. There will be waves, yes, but there will also be moments of calm. Sometimes we’ll be able to surf those crests with grace; other times, we lose our footing and that “blip” in time is enough to make us fall under and temporarily lose ourselves.
But somehow, somehow, we humans always seem to have the incredible knack of finding our way back to shore, no matter what life throws at us. We adjust our footing, learn from our mistakes. We try again. We ride that wave.
For me, blogging about balance is a collaborative effort. It involves sharing and learning from our struggles, encouraging each other when motivation or inspiration strikes, and showing patience and understanding when the drive isn’t there, or it all gets too much to handle. Reading and researching ways to find balance, and imparting some of the wisdom I’ve gleaned from my own experiences is a way that I hope to contribute to the ongoing conversation that’s happening now about why we’re running this rat race to begin with. It’s a conversation that I hope to continue to have with you all in the upcoming year, and I hope you lend your voice to it as well. Achieving balance means something different to every person, and sharing our stories gives us the opportunity to learn from each other and create our own definitions of a balanced life.
There will be blips. We all have them. And when you do, we’ll all be there for you, myself included.
Here’s to a happy, healthy and balanced 2017 to you all. May your year be blip-free.
In case I didn’t stress it enough above, I am not perfect- I’m still learning every day new ways to treat myself better and achieve a happier, healthier lifestyles. What are some of the solutions that have helped you? I’d love if you dropped me a line or commented below and let me know. We can all benefit from each others knowledge!
I’m still catching up with all of my comments and emails, so please be patient with me as I try to get back to you. I love reading each and every one of your messages and I hope they never stop arriving!
I hope to share even more about my struggles (and successes!) in my quest to find balance in my own life. In the meantime, click here for some of my previous thoughts. Part of achieving that balance, in my belief, is trying to maintain an organized and productive lifestyle. I’ve got lots of thoughts on that too, here and here.
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I enjoyed reading your post! I look foward to reading more of your posts! Good luck and happy new year!
Thank you so much! I hope you see more of you around in the new year. Good luck with your blog! Can’t wait to read more. 🙂
I love this post. Super relatable. Sorry about the past blip):
Awww, thanks so much for your support! It happens to the best of us, so I’m just trying to take it all in stride. I’m happy you enjoyed the post. 🙂
Glad to hear(: and of course! <3
Love this post! I’m pretty sure I suffer with blip-itis, and am haunted my Murphy’s Law! I’m also sure it’s a conspiracy of the cosmos to hinder my endless list-making! 😄
Thanks for stopping by!
Haha we can take comfort in the fact that we all go through similar things, right? I’m so glad you enjoyed the post. If you figure out a cure for endless list-making, please let me know ASAP. 🙂
Great post, B! The list-making never ends for me. I find it’s a great tool for course correction as goals change or are reached. Here’s a quote by Thomas Edison I like to say to keep motivated. “We haven’t failed. We know a thousand things that won’t work, so we’re that much closer to finding what will.”
I love that quote. I need to write that down somewhere so I can remember it during the times when I feel like I’ve taken a giant step backwards. Thanks so much for sharing! I hope other gain inspiration from it as well. 🙂
Blips — I like that word, because while they may look and feel like the end of the world when they happen, life goes on and our bodies/minds/spirits seem to find their way back to balance if we allow it. Not that I’m that good at remembering that when I’m being pulled under 🙂 Thank you for a word that does put things in perspective.
That’s the trouble, right? When you’re in the middle of the one, it’s hard to gain a sense of perspective. I’m glad someone out there feels the same way about the word blips that I do! Thanks for taking the time to comment. 🙂
Loved reading this wonderful post. Thanks for sharing this!❤
You’re welcome! I’m so glad you enjoyed it. Thanks for commenting!